Essays

I receive more than one weekly article in my inbox or news feed promising tips for living a happier life. Whether they come because happiness sells or people genuinely believe more happiness is right for us, as a mother, psychotherapist and human working hard on the being part, I … [Read more...] about I don’t want a happy life

I remember saying to my therapist one day, around a particularly deep piece of work, something akin to, “I have to learn to live with the absence of this because the two people on earth who could give it to me can’t, and it’s not like I can go back in time and change my infancy.” … [Read more...] about You Can Heal Old Wounds Through Time Travel, and It’s Perfectly Sane

[I recently wrote this for a dear friend who is close to having her first baby. We had ours about 7 months ago and I wanted to help her avoid the overwhelming shame I experienced in my introduction to motherhood. Nothing was what I thought (and what I feel I was led to believe) … [Read more...] about Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me Before I Gave Birth

To the Warriors Lately, as you and I have sat in a room together, I’ve felt the breath of Death on the backs of our necks, so close I could have blinked and lost you. In my fear I’ve thought, someone else should be here with you. I don’t know enough of the right thing to be the … [Read more...] about Letter to My Suicidal Clients