In this episode, I talk with Emily Stephens and Emily McMason who co-lead Mothers Together, a local, free support group for mothers with babies up to one year. As they reflect on all they witness leading the group, as well as their own beginnings, I reflect on my own first year … [Read more...] about We Do Hard Things Together: Moms on Motherhood Part 1
I don’t want a happy life
I receive more than one weekly article in my inbox or news feed promising tips for living a happier life. Whether they come because happiness sells or people genuinely believe more happiness is right for us, as a mother, psychotherapist and human working hard on the being part, I … [Read more...] about I don’t want a happy life
Our Marriage in Transition
In this episode, I talk with my transgender husband about what it's been like for us to to go through his gender transition in our marriage, and what it's now like for me, as a lesbian, to be married to a straight man. Music: "Little Tomcat (Instrumental Version)" by Josh … [Read more...] about Our Marriage in Transition
You Can Heal Old Wounds Through Time Travel, and It’s Perfectly Sane
I remember saying to my therapist one day, around a particularly deep piece of work, something akin to, “I have to learn to live with the absence of this because the two people on earth who could give it to me can’t, and it’s not like I can go back in time and change my infancy.” … [Read more...] about You Can Heal Old Wounds Through Time Travel, and It’s Perfectly Sane
Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me Before I Gave Birth
[I recently wrote this for a dear friend who is close to having her first baby. We had ours about 7 months ago and I wanted to help her avoid the overwhelming shame I experienced in my introduction to motherhood. Nothing was what I thought (and what I feel I was led to believe) … [Read more...] about Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me Before I Gave Birth
Letter to My Suicidal Clients
To the Warriors Lately, as you and I have sat in a room together, I’ve felt the breath of Death on the backs of our necks, so close I could have blinked and lost you. In my fear I’ve thought, someone else should be here with you. I don’t know enough of the right thing to be the … [Read more...] about Letter to My Suicidal Clients